The journey of menopause is a deeply personal and often challenging experience for many women. It’s a natural phase of life that can bring about significant emotional and physical changes. Yet, despite its universality, menopause remains a topic shrouded in mystery and misunderstanding, particularly regarding its impact on relationships.
Over 60% of divorces in the UK are initiated by women in their 40s, 50s and 60s. As this is the typical age where women are going through various stages of the menopause, could it be that the menopause is a significant factor in the decision to separate? Is it just a coincidence? Or are their other factors at play?
Donna Amos, Director and Head of the Family Law Team at Barker Booth & Eastwood, explores the debate in this website blog. Learn more about the symptoms, the emotional impact and coping strategies.
Understanding Menopause and Peri-Menopause
Menopause signifies the cessation of menstrual cycles, diagnosed after a year without periods. Typically occurring in women from their late 40s to early 50s.
Peri-menopause is a transitional period where levels of oestrogen and progesterone fluctuate and it can last several years prior to the menopause being diagnosed.
These hormonal changes can trigger a myriad of symptoms that vary widely among women. From very mild symptoms for the lucky few, to incredibly painful and difficult to manage symptoms that impact on all areas of their lives, for the more unlucky women.
Typical Symptoms and the Emotional Impact
Understanding the physical and emotional symptoms of the menopause is key for both parties. Typical symptoms can include:
- Irregular periods
- Heavy bleeding
- Hot flushes
- Sleep disturbances
- Weight gain
- Migraines
- Dizziness
- Skin irritations
- Breast tenderness
- Problems with memory and concentration
- Reduced sex drive
- Anxiety
- Heart Palpitations
- Mood swings
- Depression
As you can see from the extensive list above, there are multiple symptoms that would impact the health of even the strongest of marriages, particularly if someone is suffering from severe symptoms or is not getting the emotional support they need.
Can Menopause Cause Divorce?
A survey conducted by the Family Law Menopause Project and Newson Health Research and Education found that 7 in 10 women blamed the menopause for the breakdown of their marriage.
Whilst menopause can present challenges within a relationship, many couples successfully navigate this tricky life phase with good communication, understanding and patience.
Of course, there will be some relationships that cannot survive the strain on their marriage. But other factors could also be impacting the decision to end a relationship.
The figures for women filing for divorce in their 40s, 50s and 60s could also be down to the fact that grown up children have fled the nest, they may feel more financially secure to leave a relationship, they are going through other major milestones and life changes, or simply because after many years together they have grown apart.
Whilst there are many negative symptoms and thoughts around menopause, there are actually some positive impacts that many women will experience too. Optimism and confidence are shown to rise in women in their 50’s and many women report feeling more empowered with a new zest for life. This can spur on a change of career, new hobbies, interests and aspirations. These positive elements can help nurture relationships or drive people apart as they find a new sense of direction.
Guidance for Wives
Embracing menopause with self-awareness and self-compassion can make a world of difference. Start by tuning into your body and mind, recognising the changes you’re experiencing without judgement. This phase, while challenging, is temporary, and acknowledging that can bring a sense of relief.
Open communication with your partner about your symptoms and feelings can foster mutual understanding. Don’t hesitate to lean on friends, join support groups, or consult mental health professionals who can offer guidance and comfort. Prioritise self-care by incorporating relaxing activities such as yoga, meditation, or simply taking time for yourself.
Exploring lifestyle adjustments, like maintaining a balanced diet and regular exercise, can also help alleviate some symptoms. Remember, you don’t have to navigate this journey alone; surrounding yourself with a supportive network can make all the difference.
Support Strategies for Partners
Menopause can be a difficult time for your wife, but your support can make a significant difference. Begin by educating yourself about menopause and its myriad of symptoms. This knowledge will help you empathise with what your partner is going through. Open, honest communication is crucial. Listening actively and responding with compassion can help her feel understood and less isolated.
It’s also helpful to recognise that some days may be harder than others. Patience is key. Small acts of kindness can provide immense comfort. Encourage your wife to prioritise self-care and seek additional support if needed.
In addition, be mindful of your own emotional health. Supporting a loved one through menopause can be challenging, and taking care of yourself ensures you can be there for your wife.
Thinking about Divorce?
If you are considering divorce or separation, please get in touch with our understanding Family Law Team at Barker Booth & Eastwood. We can give you the guidance, support and advice you need whilst going through a complex and challenging time.
To book an initial, no-hassle appointment to gain some knowledge of the next steps, please call 01253 362 500 or email info@bbelaw.co.uk
